Hello, Hi *big grin*
So, if this is our first ever time meeting.. hello there, my name is Esé Kalusi.
I’ve been on a fitness journey for a few months. It incorporates body, mind and spirit. All workouts are home workouts but of course if you are a gym-head you can incorporate them at the gym.
Here’s my instagram if you want to check it out: EseKalusi
QUICK STORY TIME: “The time I lost my motivation”
So, I moved back to University in September after an amazing summer of finally starting my fitness page, working out nearly everyday and being around the people I love. As soon as I got to uni, something happened. I lost all my motivation. I didn’t want to workout, didn’t want to get out of bed, lost my appetite. I just wasn’t myself. I couldn’t shake it off. It lasted for about a month.
I had to do some soul searching. Why was this happening, how did I let it come to this? And most importantly, how was I going to get out of this?
I felt so alone, like I was the only person that had ever been through something like this. If you feel like this or ever have, i just want to say on a serious level that you are not alone. I am here. We all go through hard times. If you ever need to talk my dm’s are open, email is open, snap is open. Message me.
WHY DID THIS HAPPEN?
1. Lack of self belief (MIND)
I think motivation ultimately is self belief. You believe that you can achieve what you set out todo, so you go for it. And, if you don’t believe you end up doing nothing. The more I allowed negative thoughts to creep into my mind about myself and my abilities the more it grew on me. Remember your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between negative and positive thoughts. It takes what you give it and puts it out in the universe and thats what you begin to attract.
I wrote my goals down on a piece on paper and I would read it as soon as I woke up and before I went to sleep. Even if i doubted them at first. You don’t know it but it is slowly changing your thought patterns on how you perceive yourself day by day. Try it.
2. Lack of routine. Bad habits. (BODY)
Usually I can wake up at 7am, downstairs by 7:20 working out for a solid 1hour or more. During this period I just couldn’t. The more I gave into my snooze button the more this became a routine and eventually a habit. You are only really a product of your habits. It takes 21 days to build a habit. You have to force yourself daily.
I incorporated the 5 second rule. As soon as your alarm rings, get up. Everyday, show up and eventually it will be habit regardless of how you feel. Set the goal and execute.
3.Losing touch with God/the universe/higher self: (SPIRIT)
I stopped making time for God. I am a spiritual person so when my relationship with God is lacking I feel very low, empty. Its hard to explain but its that inner feeling of contentment and joy that only Gods love can bring. I had to remind myself that faith without action is dead and that God won’t move until I do.
I memorised my favourite verse in the bible (Ecclesiastes 11) and I would speak it to myself constantly. Spend less time on social media and more alone time with God and myself. I realised I was just talking to God and not actually giving him a chance to talk to me. After you pray, just sit there in silence. At first your mind starts to wonder but with time as your intuition begins to grow..you’ll know exactly what he is saying. Clearly.
I want to end off by saying please don’t be hard on yourself. If you find yourself losing motivation the first step is to have the desire to change. Visualise yourself as the person you want to be. Don’t go on instagram and see all these super motivated ‘fitness gurus’ and think they don’t have bad days or moments of self doubt. You have your own personal journey to walk. You will get there.
Love always, regardless. Esé ❤
Here are a few links to my latest workout videos: